𝗧π—₯π—¨π—˜ π—¦π—¨π—–π—–π—˜π—¦π—¦, π—šπ—₯𝗒π—ͺ𝗧𝗛 𝗔𝗑𝗗 𝗣π—₯π—’π—šπ—₯π—˜π—¦π—¦

 



I was reading a book, authored by John Mason (π‘“π‘œπ‘’π‘›π‘‘π‘’π‘Ÿ π‘œπ‘“ π‘–π‘›π‘ π‘–π‘”β„Žπ‘‘ π‘–π‘›π‘‘π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘›π‘Žπ‘‘π‘–π‘œπ‘›π‘Žπ‘™), earlier this morning and while reading, a certain phrase caught my attention.

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Mr. John wrote a quote saying,

"𝑢𝒖𝒓 π’ƒπ’–π’”π’Šπ’π’†π’”π’” π’Šπ’ π’π’Šπ’‡π’† π’Šπ’” 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒐 π’ˆπ’†π’• 𝒂𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒔, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒐 π’ˆπ’†π’• 𝒂𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒔; 𝒕𝒐 π’ƒπ’“π’†π’‚π’Œ 𝒐𝒖𝒓 π’π’˜π’ 𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒓𝒅𝒔, 𝒕𝒐 π’π’–π’•π’”π’•π’“π’Šπ’‘ 𝒐𝒖𝒓 π’šπ’†π’”π’•π’†π’“π’…π’‚π’š π’ƒπ’š 𝒐𝒖𝒓 π’•π’π’…π’‚π’š, 𝒕𝒐 𝒅𝒐 𝒐𝒖𝒓 π’˜π’π’“π’Œ π’˜π’Šπ’•π’‰ π’Žπ’π’“π’† 𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒄𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒃𝒆𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒆".

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What do you define as success or what can you call progress? Going ahead of someone or beating your own records? Surpassing your colleagues targets or actually surpassing your own?

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A lot of people (including I myself) have totally misunderstood what true success, progress and growth is. For better understanding, I'll tell you of an event, involving me and my brother, that occurred just few years ago.

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Around 2010/2011, I just entered Jss1 and my elder brother just entered Jss2. The scenery and atmosphere was different from what we had experienced back in primary school. My brother and I knew that subjects were going to be quite harder. Omo, we were scared.

 

By the end of 1st term, I took 3rd position (out of 35) in my class with a %AVR of 92 while my brother took 6th (out of 30) in his own class with a %AVR of 84. My Dad praised us both for our good scores with gifts.

 

However, by the end of 2nd term, I emerged 2nd in my class with a %AVR of 89 while my brother still emerged 6th with a %AVR of 89 as well. When our Dad saw our results, he praised my brother more than me! 

 

I was so shocked and disappointed. I got the higher class position so I should get the most praises. After a while, I went to my Dad and pleaded my case. My father then responded by telling me "𝑰 π’˜π’‚π’” π’π’π’π’Œπ’Šπ’π’ˆ 𝒂𝒕 π’šπ’π’–π’“ 𝑢𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒍𝒍 π’‘π’†π’“π’„π’†π’π’•π’‚π’ˆπ’†π’” 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒏𝒐𝒕 π’šπ’π’–π’“ π’‘π’π’”π’Šπ’•π’Šπ’π’π’”". 

 

My brother, although still having the same position, got a higher percentage average meanwhile mine dropped. This implies that I was only focused on topping my classmates instead of actually getting smarter. 

(And I won't lie, my brother jacked book pass me that year).

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True progress and growth is very little on rising above your colleagues or classmates but very much on being better than the person you were, perhaps even yesterday.

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Authentic success is when you set targets on yourself and beat them! It's rarely when you beat your competitors. 

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Be careful of emphasizing wins on you defeating your colleagues in a project or beating your classmates to a high position in your classes but see wins as gradually and daily beating your own records and becoming a better person than you were.

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This will not only help you have sanity and peace of mind most of the time but will also make you value and appreciate every little personal development you make.

 

 

 

 

I hope this helped you?

Have an awesome day!          

 

 

 

 

 

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